Do You View Beauty as Being a Curse?

Perception is the biggest key to your self-confidence!

I believe that there are many types of beautiful and that beauty is a great deal of what is perceived to be beautiful by the person making that decision or judgement. That's what makes beauty such a diverse topic. The spectrum is huge and open to many points. We all have a type or likes and dislikes. Some people are universally "beautiful!" I don't care who you are, what your ethnicity is, or if you are married or single. Some people we see fit into this category of "universal beauty". Men and women alike can say "damn! that person is very attractive" and mean it.

A lot of our beauty shines through from confidence. Either this is built intrinsically, or we are taught to know at we are beautiful. Some people have too much confidence, and oddly enough the people who should have all of this confidence are usually lacking in that area. Usually, because the way that people who are stunningly gorgeous are treated by a large part of the general population. Whether this is done through jealousy or just plain hate—it still has lasting effects and is quite damaging to the receiver.

Beauty is curse and a blessing!!! This is a fact!

People will love you for being beautiful and you will be hated for the same reason. Friends that once befriended you because of the attention you drew will start to hang around you less once they find a love interest. Lovers that were drawn to you because of how gorgeous you are, will start to treat you unkindly or try to hide you from the world once you commit to them in the fear that they will lose you to someone else. It really is confusing when you are the person being subjected to all of these double-edged swords!

The HuffinPost explains "In a dating sites, even if you have an awesome profile people will use your picture as the most important factor to decided to date you. If you applied for a job if two people have similar credentials and experience..the applicant with the higher physical attractiveness will usually get the job..I could keep going on and on and on about the perks of being 'pretty' :P."

...and the view someone who knows what this negative attention feels like "I really could use some exercise but every time I get in better shape I get even more attention and I just can't take it. I realize that I could be even prettier but my unconscious only allows me to go a certain distance because any further is too frightening so I sabotage myself. My Mom was beautiful too. She's 66 now and she says it is such a relief to be old and wrinkled."

I personally know what this can do to your self-confidence and self-image. I have been subjected to the positives and negatives of being exceptionally attractive. I have reaped the rewards and also have been on the receiving end of the hate. I have been physically assaulted by jealous people, I have been verbally assaulted by drunken friends, and I have been sexually harassed by many strangers that thought they could say whatever dirty thought that came to their mind, and that I would just accept it! I have learned to stand up for myself, to not dim my shine to make my friends feel more comfortable around me, and to not let all of the stares make me feel uncomfortable when I am out in public. Truly, they can start to drive you insane!

I no longer allow my confidence to dwindle away because of the way other people make me feel about myself when deflecting onto me how they really feel about themselves! I read books like:Self-Confidence:16 Proven Ways to Increase Your Self-Worth" by Sara Wellington

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reading countless books like this has helped me to key my mind and my face balanced! I mean really beauty is defined as balance + symmetry and to me this equals security!

So...put your best face forward, don't let your blessing become a curse, and always keep your mental health in a healthy place by reading books that can reassure you of your strengths. The compliments will keep coming and remember to always accept them with gratefulness, and give them out as much as possible. They release a little serotonin from your brain every time you compliment someone (if you really mean it), it really is the most selfish/selfless thing you could ever do lol!!!